Yesterday, I posted this for my best friend and got so many responses- thank you all so much! Bonnie and I hung out yesterday to talk things over and she said that it was even worse than that. Allen had taken advantage of Bonnie's mother's mental illness and talked her into co-signing for a car, a 2011 Kia Soul.. in total they would be paying $30,000 for a $10,000 car.... They are now garnishing the mother's wages, taking over half of her check because Allen refuses to make payments on the car.

If they decide to get rid of the car, the wages will still be garnished until the car is paid for. Bonnie feels as if she is trapped with this man. He took advantage of her mother's mental illness and roped the family into YEARS of trying to make ends meet while paying off a car.

Allen knows that Bonnie's mom sometimes has mental fits where she calls the police because she thinks Bonnie is an intruder, then kicks her out whenever she feels the need, Allen knows that bonnie doesn't have another place to stay when that happens unless she goes to his mother's house where he lives.

No, he is not the only one at fault here. as I said in the previous post: Bonnie has fits of uncontrollable anger, she harms him mentally and physically. She has tried to leave before because she knows that it's wrong to hit someone, but he wouldn't allow her to leave him.

Many of you said that they both need to be on medication, and they already are. Both of them have doctors who have tried tons of different medications.

Bonnie wants a divorce, but the church is the only family she has. She needs them.

As for Counseling, they both still are going to counseling, seprate, joint, and Sex Addicts Anon for Allen.

Thank all of you so much for your insight into this situation. Maybe seeing a different perspective on it will help her to make the decision that is best for her, her family, and Allen too.