Tubes vs vasectomy

Just looking for thoughts also both of us are willing just under educated on the process

Not sure yet if I really want my tubes tied I'm pregnant with #2 and 22 but I know for sure we want to foster and adopt in the future. As for a vasectomy my husband is not the most testosterone drivin man and with 5 other brothers and a very male populated family on all sides we aren't sure if cutting what little @manly flare@ he has is such a good idea. Any opinions for sight or experience in either or again I'm not 💯 yet but just considering

Also I'm pretty nervous about talking to my dr about it I know she means well and would do it but just at my last appointment she mentioned "future pregnancys"

I've been on nexplanon depo mirena the pill and the patch and all gave me utis cysts anxiety depression and even prolonged (30 day) periods so I'm a bit torn for bc as well