First off, this is going to be a judgement free post. If you don't agree with the way one parent does things, you can go ahead and move along. I am looking for advice and there will be no bashing of any kind on this post. If you do bash another parent, you will be reported. I am just wondering what other people do for discipline for their children. We are currently in a day where a lot of parents are too afraid to discipline/punish their kids due to wanting to be more of a friend than a parent or being afraid that they will get into trouble for discpline. Obviously, this is causing a lot of kids to become ruthless, out of control, bossy and thinking that they run shit. I obviously don't agree with beating your kids. But I see nothing wrong with a tap on the butt, spanking, whatever you want to call it. My daughter is 3 and because when she acts up or is mean to her sister, we take her aside and either do time outs and/or try to talk things through with her. I was told last night by the MIL that what my boyfriend did the other day to our daughter is abuse. It totally was not, he did not lay his hands on her other than to pick her up and move her to another room. She was upset and crying and throwing a tantrum and because he said "no, if that's how you're going to act then you Don't need to play with your toys or have any fun, you can sit and we can talk or you can sit and you can cry" Apparently this is abuse. We also have the issue of my stepdaughter who's almost 6 being very very mouthy, rolling her eyes at us, telling us flat out "no" when we tell her it's time to pick up or its time for bed. She is one of those kids that thinks she runs the show. That is not how it goes in our household. But her mom parents differently than we do so she gets away with things like that at her moms. She also goes back and tells her mom everything that goes on at our house. She doesn't get spanked at her moms but at our house, depending on the situation, or if she has been told multiple times to do things or not to do things, she gets a pat on the butt. Again. not abuse, she doesn't get a full on ass whooping like I got as a child. I'm just looking for ways that help you as a parent to keep your kids in line and keep them from being disrespectful little assholes. How do you do it if you're in a split household? I need some advice because I'm to the point with the oldest that I'm going to start not even interacting with her at all. When she gets in trouble, I want to start just sending her to her room and let that be the end of it but that is not teaching her anything at all. What do you do?