Should i be offended...?

Jewels

My boyfriend's 21st birthday is coming up and he's super pumped about it. We have been dating over a year and have a almost 5 month old baby together. I'm only 20. His mom has planned this elaborate surprise party for him and didn't include me in on anything. She is planning on taking him to a club with his brother and best friend and then to bars to drink. Should I be offended I wasn't even a thought?

Ps. He has told her he wants to celebrate with me but she keeps telling him she just wants it to be them...? Weird or not.??!

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Al

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my mother in law would not do me like that i think she has a problem with you

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Cel V • Jan 13, 2018
I agree

Ka

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def weird.... i would be upset.... especially going to a club?? oh hell no.... i dont think his mom likes you hun.... my hubbys mom dont like me either but oh well... give an update please!!!

Je

Jewels • Jan 13, 2018
That's what I'm saying! It's really fucking weird. Like I get I'm not 21 and can't go out...buttttt it's my boyfriends birthday.

Tr

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Um I would have told that bitch sorry he’ll be busy I have something super special planned for him! You definitely should plan something for him yourself u guys are a little family of your own!

Je

Jewels • Jan 13, 2018
100% agree. It's a difficult position to be in though, it's his MOM. I don't want to step on her toes, however, yes, she needs to realize I exist and he has a family now.

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Tracey • Jan 13, 2018
Well he’s a grown ass man with priorities and you and his kid should be at the top of that list. So his bday should be shared with you guys as well

Je

Jewels • Jan 13, 2018
Like makes him feel bad for not wanting to spend his b day with her. She sucks for real

Ja

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I’d be offended 😔

K�

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what 21 year old wants to go clubbing with his mid life crisis of a mom?? I mean you're 20, so it's understandable to wanna maybe go to a bar.... but the whole mom thing is effing weird. she doesn't like you for some reason, but your bf needs to put a stop to that .
what 21 year old wants to go clubbing with his mid life crisis of a mom?? I mean you're 20, so it's understandable to wanna maybe  go to a bar.... but the whole mom thing is effing weird.  she doesn't like you for some reason,  but your bf needs to put a stop to that .

Je

Jewels • Jan 13, 2018
Oh my god that gif is her trying so hard. And FOR REAL. I don't give a shit if he wants to go out with friends, but his MOM planned a ton o shit with out me, THATS the weird thing for sure

To

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Absolutely not. For one, when you have a kid, you keep your ass at home with that kid regardless of what age you’re turning. A nice family dinner is okay but she should include you. I had to call the law on my in laws and I got my point across 💁🏻

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Tori • Jan 15, 2018
Rude

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Tori • Jan 15, 2018
Yeah regardless his priorities are messed up. I’m due in September before my birthday and do you think I’m gonna go out on my birthday? No lol I’m gonna stay home with my kid and my husband. And he should put his mother in her place and tell her he ain’t going without you. That’s tude

Je

Jewels • Jan 13, 2018
I do want to say though, I am totally fine with him going out, that's not the problem. It's just the fact that his mom planned all the things without me that is the weird thing! He can definitely go out though, that's not what bothers me :)

L

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I can see her wanting to do a family dinner with just her kids, but a club is weird. Unless they're a very clubbing loving family.

Je

Jewels • Jan 13, 2018
They aren't lol she is just controlling

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Ka

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Im currently in a similar situation with my fiancé’s mother, she didn’t want me included in their Christmas events so I know how ya feel. Really though that’s a situation your boyfriend needs to handle, he needs to stand up to her and tell her that you ARE going to at least dinner or something. It’s his birthday and he’s an adult so he should be able to include anyone he wishes. If she gets upset then that’s her problem.

Ka

Kassandra • Jan 13, 2018
I completely understand. It’s a tough situation to be in.

Je

Jewels • Jan 13, 2018
Thank youuuu! So true. Needed to hear that

Al

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fucking weird no