Anyone ever been here?

In the past I used to argue and argue, mostly because I'd bottle my feelings up if I didn't like something and it'd all just tip out. I was also in relationships with people I wasn't compatible with. In my current relationship, I try to communicate more, and listen more. I've told him about my problems in the past and he's told me about his. We've already discussed porn and marriage and kids etc and we know where we both stand on it all. We had disagreements at the beginning because I had my own expectations and I wasn't getting them. This wasn't resolved by him doing all the changing, it was resolved when I realised what I was asking for was unrealistic. I see lots of examples of people making huge arguments about their partner not doing what they want, even though those people aren't willing to meet in the middle or change themselves for the relationship. Compromise, figure out why you're arguing and whether it's worth it. Look into couples counselling, talking issues out with a professional is a very sensible thing to do. As well as writing down what you want from the other person, write down what you'd expect from yourself if you were dating you. Think about what you could let go, and what is a set thing and why. Change it from what the other person needs to do, to what you need to do, because the only person's actions you can change are your own