How do you deal with people lying to you?

There was 4 of us, a double date group? I guess. For atleast 2 years. (My ex and i dated 5) My ex and i broke up. And I was so vulnerable. And they just lied to me. To save my feelings... but do they really expect me to be okay with 3 of my closest friends lying to me??

My ex said after we broke up he doesnt want to lie to me anymore. I find out 2 months later they all did. It was small and they did it so i wouldn’t hurt. They just let me talk about it without saying anything i felt like an idiot.

But it hurts so much more to find out months later. After trusting them and being so honest with my feelings. To find out all 3 of my closest friends would be so okay with lying and hiding things from me. It was such a small lie, if they just didnt, it would have saved me so much more pain.

I was just starting to feel better about the break up. I didn’t cry for 10 days straight.

And now all i can think about is, if they talked behind my back. How long? Would he complain about me to them? Did they advise him to break up with me? Do they know more then i ever wanted them to?

How am i supposed go trust these people?

I just want to cut everyone out so they can stop hurting me. I told my other friend about this and she said something that really hit me. She said people are human and they make mistakes. Am i being to hard on them?

Its so hard to trust them now. No matter how much i would like to forgive and forget, it still hurts. And i just want to hide every bit of my life from them and cut them out. I think it hurts more because it was a group effort. Especially after a break up, its like they took his side.

I know my friend is right, but how do i trust them again? When i want to tell them something all i get is a gut feeling that says “no dont, they dont deserve to know about your life. They hurt you.”