HELP: Boyfriend won’t reciprocate oral sex (or talk about it)

We’ve been together a year, and every other aspect of our relationship is wonderful.

However, when I finished giving him a blowjob, I asked him to reciprocate, and he declined. When I asked him whether it was a hygiene issue, he said it wasn’t, but failed to explain what else it could be. I suspect that he’s just terribly nervous, but I feel like I should have some explanation to understand how he feels.

That said, I confronted him about sex. I told him my reasoning for wanting to have sex was that I trusted and felt comfortable with him. Hoping for a similar response, I asked him how he felt, and he said he wasn’t comfortable with it. Again,

no solid explanation.

Questions: Am I out of line for wanting an explanation for both? Is it wrong for me to want to convince him otherwise? I’m convinced it is, because I would feel terrible if I pushed him to do something he didn’t want to do.

Options:

- Ask him if he’d be willing to try it, explain that I was nervous to give him a blowjob but I tried for him.

- ? ? ?