How do I start to heal?

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My husband and I have been together since high school. We got married last May and have been trying to conceive for the past couple months. I found out that he had messaged other women on Snapchat and sent pictures... he told one that he was wanting to be a dad but it just hasnt happened yet and is getting a divorce... I was hurt....I have been genuinely happy this whole time and I thought he was too. I feel like it all just came out of no where but he said it was because our sex life hasn't been exciting. I'm just trying to wrap my head everything... :/
Part of me wants to forgive him and the other part wants to just leave...I just want to be able to move on from this and heal

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in order to heal you have to move on... yes he has been deceitful and selfish, hes gross and a liar. aknowledge it and understand that it's best you found out about all this before you actually had a baby with this particular man!!! to heal separate yourself from him, its not necessary to hear what he has to say, or let him explain, the proof is there in black and white. it's all you need to know that he's not the man you thought he was nor is he the man for YOU. I suggest you stay with family or friends that fully Support your decision to divorce if that's what you desire ( it's what I would do). then figure out what it is you want from life the second time around then  go after it, life is sure to get better for you and goodness will soon follow you.

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I wouldn’t say to leave right off. I suggest you talk to him tho. Ask all the questions that you may not want the answers to and decide if you want to stay after that. That’s just what I would do.

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What an ass. You can’t move on and heal if he doesn’t change, and it sounds like he’s just blaming it on you.

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to be able to heal, you need to leave him and, move on. if you stay, youll forever be hurt by what he did. you wont be able to trust him again. i wouldnt tolerate cheating, they woll most likely do it again in the long run, thinking theyll get another chance.