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Hi all, so this is awkward but wondering if I’m alone. Husband has pretty severe ED, we are both obese, and have never actually been able to have intercourse (I’m 5’8 270 lbs) Married 2 years, both virgins before the wedding and no luck, even with male enhancers.

We have tried using syringes (hand jobs and using chem-free condoms to catch the ejaculate) then inserting after pre-seed.

Wondering if anyone else out there can’t have intercourse either. If you’ve overcome it, how? Feeling hopeless and vulnerable, as this is not something I’ve been able to share with anyone other than my MD. Please be nice.