My boyfriend and I have been together for 16 months and have a 7 1/2 month old daughter. No time at all! We met September 2016 and found out we were going to be parents in no time at all. He could have ran, but instead we grew closer and took this situation head on, together. I couldn’t ask for a better man!

I can’t tell you when it started, but we’ve been picking fights with each other over little things. Snappy. Moody. We kept our fights and disagreements away from our daughter, Ellie. She is the best thing to happen to both of us! To be honest, there were quite a few times that she was the only reason I’ve held on — as with my man.

The last few weeks, our fights began with every word out of our mouths. He’d say something awful about me and basically blame our problems on my weight (I quit smoking when we found out I was pregnant — I gained A LOT of weight + some postpartum). I didn’t blame him, I am not as attractive as I was when we got together. But it hurt. I’ve lost a few pounds by going to the gym and eating better proportioned meals.

This morning, I woke up to what sounded like banging on the countertops. He works nights so his nights are days and days are nights. He came back to make sure I didn’t wake up and met me at the bedroom door. I was concerned for him so I came out to the living room to spend time with him before our daughter woke up and he went to bed. He was oddly happy and talkative. He invited me to go lay with him so we went to lay in his bed while Ellie slept in mine.

I denied him sex because he was acting strange so we laid there in silence for a few minutes. We talked about our relationship and what happened. He opened up to me about past relationships and feelings I’d never heard from him. I was very happy about that because he was showing a vulnerable part of him. With how quickly things moved in the beginning of us, we skipped a hell of a lot of learning about each other before going all in!

Just before I had gone to bed last night, I went onto pinterest and started pinning while Ellie slept peacefully next to me. I stumbled upon pins about healthy and unhealthy relationships. To my surprise, we checked off on every “unhealthy” attribute. I was sad. I pinned a few items to refer back to later and it just so happened to be in the morning.

We chose each other from the vet first time we met each other. We had no intentions to go anywhere. I suggested we go down the list of the “healthy side,” and work on one thing a week. We will use this resource as a way to realize when and where we need to apply it. I’m very happy to have had this moment with him this morning and just wanted to share this quick story if another woman is having troubles with her man in an unhealthy relationship.

It may feel like there is no hope left for mending the hurt and getting past stubbornness.. but I completely believe if two people are willing enough, they will do what needs to happen to make it work.

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