My husband and I are in an open marriage. We love each other greatly, but we aren’t sexually compatible. I had never experienced an emotional connection with any sexual partner, so I never had concerns about the arrangement. I have had 4 partners in the past, and never had an issue with keeping it strictly a FWB relationship.

I recently began seeing a guy, P, who is an amazing sexual partner. We are sexually very compatible. During one of our recent sexual encounters, P and I had a very emotional experience. I have never even had that kind of experience with my husband during sex. I freaked out and P and I fought about it but have continued to see each other. We both have admitted feelings we didn’t expect to creep up, but here we are. He admitted today he would see me more often if his life wasn’t so busy (he works too much) and he is always thinking of me.

I wouldn’t leave my husband, never. I could not. My husband has admitted to developing feelings for other partners he has had in the past, but ended it out of respect for me. We have talked about moving to a poly lifestyle with second relationships but ultimately it was ended because I didn’t think it was possible to develop feelings for a second person.

But here I am. And now I am wondering, how I can be sure poly is right for us? Our open marriage has allowed us to have a close loving relationship where we don’t fight about our dissatisfaction in our sex life and allowed me to experience new and different things. Is there anything poly can bring to the table for both of us?