First of all, I don’t mean to put all lgbt into one corner. I recognize that the lgbt community is very diverse, but with that diversity comes a ton of more answers to this question and I’d like answers that pertain to my situation.

This conversation came about because I saw something on here about virginity. I asked my s/o what he defined virginity as and he said penetration. I asked if he thought it had to be consensual and he said no. I was raped as a baby so immediately I was concerned at this. I said, “so by your logic I lost my virginity as a baby?” I saw him start to rethink his definition but I was already a puddle of tears. I know some women don’t place value on their virginity and that’s completely okay but the idea of virginity and losing it has always been an important thing to me. When I gave it to my boyfriend last year it was a massive step. So hearing that his definition meant that I didn’t give it to him and that that creep took it crushed me. Of course he immediately took it back, but now I’m left wondering what other women think.

Bonus question for comments: do you believe in reinstating virginity for religious purposes?