Disclaimer: I did post this in multiple groups but got told it could be considered spam so I deleted the other ones. I did not intend for it to seem like spam because I gain nothing from having people read my article. I wasn’t paid to write it or anything like that. I’m only sharing it because I feel like it could be beneficial to anyone going through what I went through. That’s why I wanted to post it in multiple groups but oh well. The link to my article is below! First piece I’ve ever published. (I realize now you can’t do anything with the link so go to humans.media and type in “my lesson on emotional abuse” and it’s the one by A. A . Solis!)

https://humans.media/my-lesson-on-emotional-abuse?_ga=2.197813993.79476902.1516884175-502121394.1516884175

When I was 14 I got into a relationship with a guy 3 years older than me right before I moved to the other side of the country, so it became a long distance relationship. I didn’t realize the way he treated me and the things he did to me weren’t normal, like always accusing me of cheating and not believing me when I was telling the truth and withholding affection to punish me for doing absolutely nothing and refusing to say he loved me anymore, and many of the other things he did. It started out as little things, but they started getting worse and worse, like my examples. I left him after a year and 4 months when I was 16, but 8 months later I got back with him right before I turned 17, and that was a very bad decision. He was way worse than how he used to be and I don’t understand how I put up with all of that again for a whole year. To read the full story, go to the link!

I wrote this article to speak up about my abuse. It’s a very real thing that happened to me that still resonates with me. I understand it could’ve been a lot worse but I take everything that happened as a huge lesson. I’m still angry with my ex for treating me that way and completely ruining my confidence and the way I viewed myself. I’ve been working on fixing what he destroyed for the last 6 months. I wrote my story for others to read so they know:

• NO, you don’t have to stay with him/her

• I know it totally sucks right now, but it WILL get better

• Emotional/mental abuse is very real and damaging

• They are NOT your everything if they treat you like shit, and you CAN live without them

• You DO NOT need someone who treats you lesser than who you are, because you are an amazing person that deserves everything

• Leaving them might suck, but time will definitely heal your wounds and you will thank yourself for being strong later

I was in denial for so long, but I finally got the courage to GET OUT. I want my story to inspire others because my own story inspired me to begin my journey in self love and be an advocate for people in toxic relationships. Click the link and give it a read!