Forgetful.

Hi everyone I don't know if I need advice or what. Maybe I'm just being a bitch? I don't know I need some input I feel insane.

So my boyfriend and I both love at home while attending the same college together. He's the oldest of four, so he usually has to babysit unless it's during the evening or he has class or work. So, whenever we want to do something he has to ask to make sure it's okay with his parents since he's usually babysitting, so that they can make other arrangements for his grandparents to watch them for a few hours.

In the two years we've been dating, I've noticed he forgets a lot of things. We'll plan for a date and unless I remind him to ask 24/7 or nag him until he asks, he forgets. He refuses to put reminders in his phone or write it on his hand or anything.

Of course, it's extremely frustrating to plan out a date and the day of be told "oh I forgot to ask so we can't go". I've told him NUMEROUS times that I am not his personal reminder and that he should not expect me to nag him/remind him all the time to ask for things. He's almost 20 years old.

This being said, we have the same arguments all the time over it. I'll get upset because he forgot to ask and he's started saying things like "well you should've reminded me". I honestly feel like a mother trying to remind her kids to do their homework or clean their rooms! I know he's forgetful, but he shouldn't expect me to always be there to remind him of things.

I know some people will say "oh well I'm sure he reminds you of things too" and he does, but occasionally. It's not almost every week. And I don't expect him to remind me. Nor do I say "oh well you should've reminded me" to him. I know it's normal to forget things, but it's so often and when I'm upset I get treated as if it's my fault he forgot because I didn't remind him 24/7.

Am I being too sensitive over this? Should I be expected to always remind him? Or is he in the wrong?

I could really use some advice and/or opinions. Thank you!