Opinionated in laws rant

Growing up I had a mom that wouldn’t give out her unwanted opinion. Like if I asked her what she thought, she would tell me. Now I’m married to a man that has a mom and a stepdad that just feel the need to give their input on our lives and the way we live. Like they can have an opinion that’s fine, but don’t feel the need to just flat out give it every time they get a chance.

My husband and I had a “courthouse” wedding. It was easier for us to do that bc we were college students and didn’t want to spend tons on a wedding yet but still wanted to get married. Plus we were only in the same state as his two parents and none of my family would come since we live far away. Well my husband mentioned he wants a real wedding. She flat out says “you’re always looking for the next thing to spend money on”. Like really? When his grandpa just died and his mom got over 500k in investments and is cashing them in to remodel their house. Which is fine by the way. So tell me who’s the one blowing money? It just annoys me. Our finances are our business, not his parents. He didn’t mean he wants one this year, he meant it as we should start saving for one and have it when he have the right amount saved. She freaked out on us because he bought me a brand new 4 runner and he bought himself a truck right after. Paid them both off. His family has a lot of money that is how he is able to spend money but she complains about it. Saying we should have bought a house instead of cars but I’m glad we didn’t buy a house because he’s in the military now. So either I would live in it with our son alone, or it would just be rented out or empty. We have 50k in savings for a down payment when he gets out of the military but I don’t see a point in buying a house when he’s in because we will move a lot. I just hate that she is in our business all of the time. He’s jumped down her throat about it but she keeps bitchin about how we spend money. Our son has everything he needs, I never ask to borrow money, we don’t run out and we don’t go on shopping sprees. But oh we want to have a real wedding so that means we are foolishly spending money.