I have been getting a lot of help on here today, so I would like to present a dilemma my husband and I are currently facing and get some input.

We are at a point where we could move if we wanted to, but there are several factors involved:

If we move, we want to get some land.

Because of this, we won’t move again.

I want to get pregnant again next year.

I don’t want to move once I get pregnant.

The reason we are considering it is because our current property and home are too small to meet our needs and we can afford to move right now. We are open to buying land almost anywhere, really, if it would meet our criteria. My husband is in a position to work almost anywhere. Right now we live near his mom, who is aging but currently very healthy, but she can’t help out with childcare. I am struggling to find help with the baby and I generally don’t like the area we live in; however, my husband just received a huge promotion, with talk of another in a few years if he stays and continues doing well. The increased finances may make things easier, too. My mom is about 2,000 miles away but incredibly helpful, and has offered financial assistance as well. She is younger and in better health than my MIL and can more easily visit us than my MIL would if we moved. That area where my mom is also has many more resources, partially because of my mom’s connections, like a good preschool. I would have my family to help, too, and be a part of our child’s life.

So the dilemma is:

Stay here with my aging MIL and wait for things to improve with the job, trying to build a better support network with a better income

OR

Move a long ways and ask my husband to find a new (possibly not as well paying) job in exchange for my mom’s help with babysitting and finances, and to be nearer to my family (but far from my aging MIL)