How to get a relationship?

I’m a 23 year old virgin female, who is a bbw.(struggling to change that bbw part). I feel like I’m gonna be forever alone because I’m big. Which I know is a cognitive distortion but I can’t help this feeling. I feel like people are so shallow to look past the weight. I mean I care about looks too but it’s about the heart that shines through, the morals and values. Bottom line is I want a relationship, the experience. People say oh take this time to work on yourself, you don’t find love it finds you bs. If I’m gonna wait for it to find me then I’ll be 80 n dying alone. I don’t go to bars because I don’t like being in huge groups and I feel like that’s not the best place to meet someone. Any tips or advice?