Any one else have this issue

lilly

I want to have sex and I even ask him if we can and he turns me down I respect him saying no but my vibrator is getting more action it’s depressing we’ve tried talking and he’s tired or he’s in pain or he just doesn’t want to I respect that but it’s frustrating I love him so much but a relationship without sex is very difficult a relationship without intimacy is just .... heart wrenching almost 3 years together any helpful tips