How do I deal with my family now?

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I miscarried our first child in October of 2017. This would have been my parents first grandchild. My sister, who I am not very close with, just told me this past Saturday that she is 10 weeks pregnant (the exact time I had my miscarriage). I’m now stuck in a hard place with my family. I’m so ashamed and filled with anger and hurt. I feel that my parents/family will eventually forget that our child existed. I don’t know how I will be able to go to family events seeing this child or her growing belly. I know I may seem irrational but hell, I miss my baby.

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My younger sister asked me when my husband and I were going to start trying in Dec. of 2016 and we had only gotten married that June and her and her husband the October of that year.  I knew when she asked, she was pregnant but I didn't say anything and that Christmas she popped the announcement that she was 6-8 weeks along.  I wasn't happy and neither were my parents but for them it was because they wanted us to enjoy a year of marriage before adding kids to the mix which I understood.  We were all happy at the end of the night but it still hurt because now my niece is 6 months old and my husband and I are having trouble conceiving.  I miscarried in September and I'm hoping I have a BFP in a couple weeks because I know we've only been trying for 9 months but it's still upsetting.

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sorry to hear that. prayers

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It’s not irrational whatsoever. I have complete empathy for you and understand. I lost my baby in December . My sister and my sister in law are both pregnant. We were all due 2 weeks apart. I see my sisters several times a week. I see their bellies grow. My family is consumed over discussing their pregnancies. So I hear you. You family will not forget about your baby. But they’ll prob won’t talk about it very much because society still sees miscarriage as a taboo subject. Nothing can take the pain away. Hopefully time will help it seem more “normal.” I truly hope you get your rainbow baby soon. Best wishes

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I miscarried at 10.5 weeks in October. I’m so sorry for your loss and the pain you’re experiencing. 
A friend of mine happened to get pregnant one week after I had. However, she didn’t miscarry. I’m now seeing all her posts about it on social media. I don’t blame her for sharing them but man, it hurts like hell to see. 
I don’t have any advice because I have no idea what to do. I feel for you though. I wish  you weren’t going through this.