Help, I need to cum

I haven’t orgasmed by myself or w my boyfriend. I’ve orgasmed a couple of times using a shower head but I feel like I should be able to cum by myself and or w my boyfriend. I love him but I feel less in some way bc I can’t O...I’ve tried pretty much everything...stimulating my clit, relaxing, and whatever else I’ve heard but I NEED HELP I want to O ...I NEED TO! Ughhh