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So I’m a nanny and I am in NO WAY mommy shaming or judging, but I just wanted to share and see what everyone else’s opinions are in this matter. One of the little boys I nanny for is 14 months old. He’s your typical toddler. He’s rambunctious and full of energy and, for the most part, very content. Lately he’s been having really bad fits in the evening due to teething and just being a crabby toddler 🤷🏻‍♀️. He has never taken a pacifier. His parents have tried so hard during his infancy to get him to take one but he just doesn’t like it. His brother, on the other hand, took one until he was 2.5. I figured they were done trying to get him to take one but last night they said they’re still trying to force him to take the pacci at 14 months to “calm him down”. To me this seems a little crazy because it’s a blessing at that age he never took one. And I wouldn’t want to start a hard habit to break now?! I have nothing against pacifiers, but it seems weird that they want to start using them now? Is that just me?

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Their kids, their rules.

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The way I look at it is it’s going to be their problem to fix later. It may have worked with their other child so they find it an easy go to.

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that's a silly thing to do imo
who the heck tries to get a toddler to take a binky when they've never ever taken one😂

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I won't let my kids use pacifiers past a certain age, probably 2. My step son is 4 and his grandma and mom keep giving him pacifiers and it's making me CRAZY.  He can't even pronounce words correctly without it in his mouth and he tries to talk with it in all the time. it's going to screw up his teeth,  in fact the damage has already begun.  my husband says he agrees but still lets him have it to avoid fits. and at 4, he's big for his age so it looks absolutely ridiculous.  I hate it. but anyway, in your situation,  it's their kid so.... Nothing you can do, really.

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They have pacifier shaped teethers, and other similar teething toys, maybe purchase a couple and kindly comment that you noticed his teething and wanted to get him a little gift to try (say they worked for old clients, cousins , nephew whoever)? see if the baby likes them and if they help

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Do you know if he sleeps through the night? I actually just spoke to a woman that said her daughter finally took a pacifier at 18 months and that's when she started sleeping through the night. I was a nanny for over ten years and I will tell every nanny I meet, be careful not to judge when you don't have your own! I made horrible judgements about parents I worked for. My son is now 7 months old and I regret ALMOST every negative thought I had about the way they parented.

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Sometimes parents do seemingly irrational things if it gives them 5 minutes to catch their breath.
My son - who is 2 - cries a lot at night after work when my husband and I would just love a little down time - even eating supper without tears would be great.  All the crying is exhausting.  I’m sure if you talk to his daytime care takers they would describe him as a typical 2 year old.  I am pretty sure he saves the water works for me.  
So, even a seemingly normal kid can be turn into a lunatic the second their parents come home meaning the kid you watch is not the kid the parents have to deal with at night.

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Maybe suggest a teethifier instead. He doesn’t need a paci he needs something to  chew on to ease some discomfort. 
A teether, Ice, teethifier, etc

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My son was a late teether and never took one before either. But we tried it when he was getting worse and he took it. Kept us sane for a few months until we started to wean him after 2. It was slow and easy to get him off of it. So I wouldn’t worry, let them decide what to do with their son.

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