So my husband has been working crazy hours this week and we planned to do our Valentine’s Day a day early so I cleaned the house before he got home and I got our toddler packed and off with the sitter and we got in the car and off we went. He asked me where I wanted to eat, so I chose, then he asked me what movie I wanted to see and I chose, then I started not feeling well (I’m 9 weeks pregnant) and we had been kicking around the idea of going to the casino on the way home. We usually have a lot of fun gambling together BUT we never stick to our budget and we NEVER stick to our timeline, so when we were coming up on the exit, I asked him if he had his heart set on gambling tonight. He huffed at me and said, “Great you don’t wanna go?” And I said, “Well, I’m just pretty tired and I’m starting to not feel well, so I thought we could go home.” He got PISSED at me. He said, “we always f*****g do what you want to do, you chose where we ate and you chose what movie we saw, but when it comes down to what I wanted to do it doesn’t f*****g matter to you, you’re so selfish and you don’t give a damn about how I feel.” Then he sped past the exit, drove extremely fast to our house, went inside, turned off all the lights before I even had gotten to the front door and went to bed.

I don’t even know how to react. I mean, maybe I was selfish tonight? I didn’t feel like it was that big of a deal to go to the casino, I just didn’t want to be there hours on end and throw away money we don’t have. It seems like there might be more going on than just tonight, but we haven’t been on a date in months, so I’m not sure where he got all of this from. Was I really selfish in this? Is he overreacting? Idk? Advice please, this is driving me insane.