Falling out of love

Has anyone fallen out of love? Tell me about it!!

I’ve been in a 3 year relationship and have recently lost my grandma which is killing me and i recently started working with this guy who’s 11 years older than me and something really really attracts me towards him, I’m questioning EVERYTHING! I do not want to upset my boyfriend or be an arsehole in this situation, don’t know what to do, HELPP?!