Calling all men

That answer is going to be entirely different depending on who answers this question besides me... first let me start off with my wife and I communicate openly about our sex life and needs. We watch porn together and it takes our sex life to a while other level.Jerking off is something guys just do... thinking about sex all the time... no I don't think so... frequently sure... but not all the time, that's just not realistic. Whether it's to porn, or mental imagery of you and your SO... your SO might not be around, available, and willing when the mood strikes... so your hand is the next best thing. Simply put.... it does the job. My wife knows I do it... and I know she masturbates too...we don't hide things like this in our relationship...a solid relationship is one that is built on trust and open communication. You'll have a better relationship too if you accept it, understand it (it's just a basic need not anything more than that), and communicate about it openly and trust in it.... which in the end is far better than your SO going elsewhere to fulfill that desire.

Just as some background I started watching porn at age 13 growing up on a dad who was hardly ever home and when he was home couldn't understand the type of person I was growing up. He would recount tales of middle school and high school where he was in band and football and got in bed with whoever he wanted. I couldn't in all reality live that life and didn't want to and he didn't know how to handle it, I was a gamer, socially akward, and have only had two serious relationships in my entire life and one of those is now my wife and the mother of my son. I couldn't get women like my dad so I grew up thinking something was wrong with me and used porn as a fantasy replacement. Flash forward to now and I'd say nothing has hurt my ability to have real emotionally strong relationships than porn. I'd see girls in college, high school, and middle school and my mind would be in a constant state of lust where all I cared about was sexual satisfaction. We live in the most hyper sexualized society in history and things are only getting worse. it's all about satisfying empty pleasure paired with immediate gratification and with most things "if it's not hurting you then get over it" is the prevailing attitude as with most unhealthy lifestyles. I got "the talk" from my mom for God's sake, how anyone can see the self serving lifestyles promoted these days going anywhere but downhill is beyond me. I'll get off my soap box and end with how thankful I am to have miraculously stopped after over a decade of non-stop porn addiction with my wife's support. I can clearly state nothing is more toxic than porn when it comes to mature relationships. If you are focusing on something other than your wife then how is that considered a committed relationship?

Stress relief , when s/o not in the mood for me I’m completely attracted to my s/o in every way it’s just some days she might be tired or exhausted or at work or a stressful week for myself