Does anyone else have this problem w/ a family member??? LONG POST

So my mom is literally driving me up a wall. She flips out over the littlest things. I feel like every time I’m around her I just get nothing but “negative vibes” and it makes me not want to be around her.. I feel bad bc I mean that is my mom. But I can literally hardly stand her. She’s almost like a bully. Every little thing that I do or anyone else does wrong she has something negative to say about it. If it isn’t done her way then it’s not right and she will be the literal biggest B! About it. She’s ALWAYS down my throat about something. She’s CONSTANTLY yelling for me to do something for her at that exact second she yells for me and then if it’s not done exactly her way she has to be at your neck about it. Like mistakes happen and that’s freaking life! And she takes that crap to the heart to much. And I can not take it any more. My step dad is an alcoholic and they argue alot, basically my whole life. And they just got into it and then She was literally just yelling at me about how much she wanted to go back to work bc she doesn’t want to deal with us any more. I didn’t even do any thing to her I at least try and put an effort in around the dang house and I’m still the one who had to hear her gripe about it. And she takes it out on me. and She was screaming about “how much I’ve changed the past couple of months” and I literally feel like it’s bc of her. And how she treats me. Like I’m a dog. I feel like bc she’s worked at a development center for MRDD for 17 years she wants to come home and boss us around and expect us to do any and every little thing for her like she teaches her clients to do. Ik there are alot of moms on here, but I just need to see what other people think of this bc I seriously have no one to talk to about this kind of stuff.. I just feel like me having to be around and hear her negativity so much is wearing me down and idk what to do about it. I can’t talk to her about this type of stuff bc she will literally throw a HUGE fit and start flipping tf out on me.