did i over react?...

Question

so this last weekend my husband went on a guys trip with his friends a couple of states over to go ice fishing.  I am 6 months pregnant and we have a 5 year old and a farm. my stipulation for him to go was that he had to stay in contact with me through out the trip...not even 24 hours into the trip he drops his new cell phone into the icy water and its unretrievable. I get a Facebook message from one of his buddies 2 hours after the event and needless to say I lost my cool. the rest of the trip he didn't even attempted to contact me or have his friends let me know when they were on the road home after I had messaged them asking very nicely for them to do so as we had had an ice storm this way and wanted to make sure they had a safe trip. this pregnancy has given me extreme anxiety and without contact from him I had a hard time eating and sleeping along with working the whole weekend plus taking care of the farm by myself. I felt very disrespected. am I just being crazy feeling this way or am I right to be upset? 
his friends did not tell him I was upset but only tht I had ordered his new phone and that it would be in the day after his trip.
edit: he has the rule when I go out or am driving home from work that I have to call him.

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Accidents happen. But after you freaked out over an accident yeah I’m sure he didn’t want to talk to you lol 🤷🏻‍♀️ and yeah I’m sure his guy friends did tell him you flipped out they didn’t keep it from him lol

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In my opinion its not his friends responsibility to inform you even if you asked. I doubt he dropped his phone in the water on purpose so he wouldnt have to check in with you. Yes it would of been nice if he asked one of his friends to use their phone to call you but he didnt. So I'd let it go because you can't change the past.

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I wouldn't have agreed to remaining in contact the entire time; having to check in makes me feel like I'm being treated like a child and takes away from the trip. I think you overreacted, he got home fine. Notifying you of where they were on the road doesn't do anything but soothe you. Had something happened, he would have let you know.

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It's annoying but ya you kinda went overboard... it's his fault but it was an accident that easily happens all the time ! Freaking at his buddies won't make him call you but will make him not want to

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Well, accidents happen, but he could easily have contacted you regularly using one of his friends' phones, so I do think that's disrespectful.

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I dont understand why he couldnt call you from his friends phone?  Why fid his friend message you on facebook and not text ?  I wouldnt just be upset, I would be suspicious.  Odd.  My friend and I went away to New Hampshire in the mountains and she had no cell service and I did.  She called her man from my phone and explained to him and told him he could get a hold of her through me, especially in case of emergency.

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Stipulations....

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it was an accident and he probably didn't want to bug his friends to use their phones, save from an emergency. normally I would let it go, but with a 6+ mo pregnancy, being reachable in case of an emergency back home is a must.

did i over react?...

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