sex not sexy?

Question

so anyone else feel like they are hunting their husband/ partner down for sec in fertile window? such hard work and not sexy TTC when tired, he knows it's the time but oblivious to hints. feels like I make all the effort! sorry for rant but bored of one sided effort. told him how I feel but next day no help. wanna feel sexy but can't when only one making effort! Any advice/ feel same appreciated! xx

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I’m not sure if this is helpful. But my husband and I have a healthy sex life but we’re adults and tired and life happens. We had a long talk about a few months ago about how I felt like I was the one leading the ttc especially during my fertile window and I felt like we didn’t bd enough. What helped us, is agreeing it doesn’t have to be some long drawn out sexy time. For example the other night I was falling asleep and he said let’s bd real fast just to get you some sperm 😂 it was over in a couple minutes lol. We basically agreed to quit making sex a big deal in ttc . I think it’s healthy for couples ttc, it takes pressure off men and they realize we don’t have to have this super freaky sexy time to keep it interesting. JUST PUT A BABY IN ME lol 😂

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Yas gurl! My husband will go along with it cause he knows we’re in my fertile window, but he becomes so uninterested since it’s “scheduled”. It becomes a giant chore instead of fun cause he’s all in his head about feeling like a “stud horse”. Any other time of the month he’d be totally into getting busy so it makes no sense! Ugh! I just want to shake him! Lol!

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I feel like I’m forcing him lol I mean I know he wants it too but I kind of feel I pressure him on my fertile days like if he doesn’t do it I might murder him (in his sleep of course) hahaha but seriously I feel I’m taking the sexy out of it by making it a task .... I ovulate tomorrow and been trying not to mention it to him just get him in he mood but it’s so hard not to say we need to get serious about this and baby make tonight 😬

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Oh and some advice on that: I started sexting my husband at work during my fertile days and sometimes when he’s playing on his phone and we’re in bed I’ll put porn on the tv to get both of us feeling sexy.

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Uhg I agree!! ALSO I feel line my husband is always horny when I’m not fertile but during my ovulation (i don’t tell him when I’m ovulating) he legit loves to play video games and is tired all the time. Like comeeee onnnnn!!!

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