I have the most amazing partner. He is caring, honest, cooks, is in touch with his feelings and all that. BUT... when it comes to taking care of the house he sucks! Every time I get sick the house turns into a giant garbage bin. The animals are not well taken care of, he never notices if my youngest (from a previous relationship, he's accepted her as his own though) or me are running out of clean clothes, the house is not vacuumed... in short, the only chores he will do are cooking and laundry. And he refuses to cook in batches, so he wastes a lot of time on every meal and then complains that he doesn't have the time to do the rest! When he does the laundry he HAS to fold all the underwear and the t-shirts! I've suggested that he skips those steps when we don't have the time for that but NOOOO, he MUST DO THINGS THAT WAY.

I'm just so frustrated! I'm having severe morning sickness and am on medical leave at the moment, so it's not like I can help a lot. The house sucks right now and I'm so freaking worried about how things will be when the baby comes... I have talked to him gently, I've broken down and cried, I've made lists with all the chores and nothing helps. Today I absolutely lost my cool and told him that trying is not enough, that he's a grown man and must be able to take care of a house -just like I am! - and he just says he's doin his best.

tl;dr: husband is lovelxy but is not capable of helping with the house.

What else can I do????