And it's heartbreaking. We decided relatively quickly in our marriage that we wanted to start trying for a baby. That was a year and a half ago... It may not seem like very long to be trying, but over 90% of healthy couples will conceive within 1 year. I've always wanted kids, especially later In my 20s. But when I met the love of my life, my dream of "one day" became no longer just a dream, but a reality. I found someone who I want to make a mini person with, who has a little bit of all that is him and a little bit of all that is me.

 In the past 2-3 months I've really started feeling down about all this, and  how long this process is taking us. Like seriously depressed. And every time someone asks me if I'm pregnant, or asks when we're going to have a baby, or tells me to relax- it'll happen, or tells me we can always adopt if things don't work out... my heart breaks a little more, and a lump in my throat forms and I find myself holding back tears... I don't know what to tell you to say to help me feel better, but these are not the things to help me. Every time someone announces they are pregnant, it reminds me that it's not yet happened for us and it makes me want to vomit and break down all in the same breath.

I'm putting this out there for nothing more then this: know that your words to someone can hurt. Try to be considerate of how they may make someone feel. I don't need sympathy, but rather empathy. And, for the love of God, don't tell me to relax!

-Tawni