So it started out that I was planning the actual party myself (I wanted to) and well my mom whom I haven’t talked to in over a year just came back into my life for her first grandchild. She got angry I was planning it myself so I said she could help. We had 78 people coming to the reveal. For the food we wanted todo a bbq , shish kebabs potato salad ribs you name it. If I was the only one planning by the time we got the numbers I would have called in an order to the local bbq place, but my mom disagreed. So the day before the reveal her and I start preparing the food; cutting onions , peppers , chicken , steak , squash , tomatoes , mushrooms etcfor the shish kebabs . However, we forgot the sticks for them. So my mom sends her (racist, yes this is important ) boyfriend to the store for them. It’s about 12pm by this time. He doesn’t arrive back for about 2.5 hours, the dollar store is literally a 5 minute drive. When he comes back he and my mom get into an argument about him hanging up on the phone and then they leave she says “I’ll be back in the morning to help some more” well we were supposed to prepare the food and then start cooking it the next morning as it was the morning of the reveal. So I continue to work but I barley make a dent in what we need to do and im stressing tf out. The next morning I get up to start again at 8am, my mom is supposed to be here by 9, SO up at 10, best friend helping at 12 , and the party starts by 3. In reality my mom didn’t come til 1, SO got up about 12, best friend never showed until the party started and I was stuck. I recruited 5 neighbor kids to help, which they did and we got shit done.

Well fast forward to the party .

We’re running around putting shit together and my mom and her bf was supposed to buy some lime (like the kind you buy to cover the smell of a dead animal or something ) as we were going to burn it bc the reveal was going to be done with a changing color fire. Her bf bought some generic “well it’s basically the same thing” stuff that did not burn. Great . So I get a confetti champagne 🍾 bottle instead. We’re having the reveal at a park and it was kind of windy. The bottle gets blown off and pink confetti goes everywhere ! 😭 great it’s all ruined. My mom then jumps in and says “well we know what it is now so we can get some blue confetti and make it like all that was apart of it and get another bottle for you” so we ask my SO mom if she could pick it up as she is already at Walmart. She comes back with a blue confetti bottle and nothing else 🤦‍♀️ miscommunication at its finest. So then we can’t do the reveal that way either. Well everyone starts eating as we figure out what todo about the reveal. After about 10 minutes my mom walks up to me and says “would you be mad if Todd and I left ,, he’s got a hernia or something. We’re going to take him to the hospital” no I’m not mad. So my mom, her bf , and the ppl that came with them who I tried to incorporate into the activities but they all refused , left before we even did the reveal.

Now my SO sister had made 2 cakes, one blue inside and the other pink, they weren’t for the revealing just for cake . Well we had no other way so we asked for the pink one and cut it for everyone to see. Cool , great response , whatever .

My best friend whom I mentioned before had been taking photos the whole party and my dad recording. After the party my SO and I were going to match and do some cute reveal photos with the ultrasounds. I remembered I had left my bad with my dress and ultrasounds in my moms truck , the hospital is literally 5 min away and I could just go get them. So I call,

“Mom where are you at? I left stuff I need in the truck”

“Oh we’re in Englewood.. Todd’s ok now..”

“Englewood ? That’s 30 min away, I thought you were going to the hospital?” (They left 30 minute prior to the call)

“Yeah... He just pulled a muscle or something “

“K”

And I hung up. The racist thing , my moms boyfriend Todd is not only racist (my SO is black) but he is also homophobic (my little brother is gay) and talks shit about my dad who let them stay in his house for the last couple weeks. This was the reason they left. My SO whole family was there and Todd had an issue.

Something funny about it , while they were there my mom approached me and said “that dude in the orange”, my so’s brother in law, “he said ‘well if they try something we will show them crazy’” so I was obviously bothered by this and pulled my SO aside and talked to him about it. We don’t need any drama and especially no race war we’re here for our baby with now two heritages (let me throw this out tho , my family it’s self is NOT racist ) . Days later I find out Todd put a fucking lock in an bandanna and said “if mike (my SO) says something smart to me he’s getting clocked.” SaiD that to my mom . She NEVER stood against him , but agreed and never brought it to my attention , the one person riding with them at the time did .

And to top off this already horrific event , the next morning I receive a text from my best friend telling me she accidentally deleted all the pictures 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ so I don’t even have the party pictures just the recording from my dad which I still haven’t seen a week later. Ohhhhh and my mom comes in this morning and shows me a ring that her and Todd are now engaged. Wow just wow. Needed to get this all out tbh . I’m almost ready to cut them out of my life agai grand child or not bc I can just see things getting really physically violent and with the baby being mix I don’t trust that Todd wouldn’t hurt my baby 😭