Fight or Flight?

Question

My boyfriend of nine months and I got into an argument last night. I know people say things sometimes in arguments they don’t mean, but last nights’ words hit me hard. He has since apologized, saying he didn’t mean it and he should have never said it. He told me twice during our argument that “I wasn’t good enough for him”.  What are your thoughts? Should I let it go?

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I have said some things like that in arguments with my SO and I can assure you I didn't mean them and they weren't true. I was angry and those words were meant to hurt, and they did. I have since learned to bite my tongue because sometimes the things you say cannot be unsaid, they will forever be in that person's mind as a possibility. He has said some hurtful things too and I honestly don't believe he meant them but they did hurt my feelings in a very significant way and it is hard to get over it ❤️

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This can go either way honestly. Sometimes people say things in anger that they wouldn’t normally allow themselves to say, and sometimes when angry or hurt people say things to deliberately cause pain. I think it would depend on how he makes you feel normally. If on a regular basis in small ways he makes you feel like you don’t deserve him than he did indeed mean those words.

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ooh thats tough. id like to say that i wouldnt stand for a guy who said that to me but idk what your relationship is like. i would not trust him very much after that and I'd always think about it. i might stay but it would hurt a lot to stay and who knows what kind of shit he would say next? ive never had a guy tell me that, ever. i think that says a lot about your boyfriend that he could say something like that. idk. i don't think it would be good to stay, but i know that it can be hard to leave. i don't think that your relationship has very positive prospects if he can say that

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Well depends what he said . If they were extremely I don’t think I can move past it but if it was small things then maybe . Depends what he said to be honest , my friends bf told her your a bad mom and I’m happy you got molested by your dad and hope you have nightmares of him , she eventually still was with him so that I would have said hell no bye !

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What was the context? Why was he saying you weren’t good enough for him?

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