Does getting fingered mean I am a whore ?

My cousin and I are really close. We were talking about sex and I told her that I like getting fingered. She looked at me with disapproval and urged me not to let any guy finger me as it is disrespectful.

She’s a lesbian and acts like she hates boys so I asked her if that’s why she thinks like that but she refused to tell me more.

So am I getting disrespected if I let a man finger me?