I'm feeling bummed...is it hormones?

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Ok don't get me wrong I am super excited about my baby boy getting ready to arrive in another month or so... it is just the other things of pregnancy that has me bumming.
My shower is in two weeks and I have heard from most of my friends that they can't make it... including a sister in law. I'm not feeling the love...
I can't even find a dress to wear to my shower... I just wanted to look cute for a day. I am plus size and at 30 weeks I am just now feeling like I look pregnant and not just extra fat. (Other people have seen it for a while they say, but not me... and I have had a hard time with that)
I just found out that one main store where I have my baby registry is closing probably before I can even get things off my registry purchased myself.
People who are coming to shower haven't gotten things from registry (why did I bother making one?) I am still appreciative of any and all gifts I am just saying there was a lot of time spent picking things out... (Does this make me an awful person for thinking this... don't answer that I know already)
I don't have a space in my house to set up a nursery and I'm sad seeing other people's cute ones.
We are trying to move in a few months so husband isn't understanding my nesting needs. He is great otherwise, but ugh please help me move shit around so we can have room for a crib!
It is 2:30 am and I haven't slept well in like 4 days... I have to work in the morning and instead I am sitting on my couch wide awake crying about things I cannot control... complaining about things that ultimately will not matter in a few months to strangers who may or may not understand where I am coming from...
I'm just having a difficult time.... letting go of the dream world I wanted for my baby's arrival and adjusting to what the reality is going to be.

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I totally get how your feeling love. I'm 30 weeks too and I've started having anxiety attacks and feeling super down the last week. I'm not having a baby shower, pretty much because I had no one to invite. I've honestly got the bare basics for our little girl, no ones helped me out or offered to buy anything. My family won't even answer my calls or texts because they have to much going on (both my partners mum and my mum are passed away) and I don't have much support other than my dad. My partner and I are stuck living in one bedroom with a dog because he can't find work and we were suppose to move out two months ago but haven't been able to. Your not alone, just remember that! Life is just  shitty sometimes ❤️

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I felt like I was reading my own post when I read this. I have a shower coming up in a few weeks and no one has RSVP’d. My sister keeps telling me that she isn’t getting any and it is stressing me out! My registry was also a waste of time but I moved everything to amazon and it only took like an hour. I just try to have faith and be positive because the only thing your baby truly needs is you:)

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I’m sorry you’re upset 💔 I’m almost 34 weeks and we’re currently in a hotel waiting for the military to give us a house to move into. We’ve had to wait to buy much of anything due to moving. I keep reading about other women setting up the nursery, getting their bags ready. It makes me super depressed and jealous to be honest. I’m hoping this baby stays put and we have a house by his arrival. I feel cheated out of enjoying the last bit of my pregnancy so I know what ya mean. I hope everything works out for you!

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I completely understand where you’re coming from! My husband recently had me start working part-time so we didn’t have to pay for daycare. I have no money to get baby stuff nor has he offered to help at all. The baby room still needs to be finished but he won’t do that and the only reason I am getting thrown a baby shower is “because I’m stressed out.” My own sister won’t even come. I hate to say it but I’m starting to feel like this was a bad idea :( 
I know it will get better towards the end of the pregnancy though. We just need to keep our heads up!

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I'm kinda in the same situation. I have my shower in 2 weeks and have barely heard back from any of my friends. I have yet to find a dress and it stresses me out so much too.   been super emotional because I feel like my boyfriend is not being as supportive as he should be.  He's happy he's going to be a dad but other than That, he hasn't offered to help with anything. I tell him I need him there emotionally but he just doesn't get it.  I guess it's just the way guys are?! idk. Either way, things will get better once the baby is here. best of luck to you.

I'm feeling bummed...is it hormones?

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