So I'm trying to be with a woman for the first time (I'm 36) and I'm finding PDA and lack of penetration a problem. Her tribbing made my pelvis sore for 4 days afterwards and she does not do cunnilingus. Help! Should we try again or just remain friends? She is very beautiful BTW and I feel kinda ashamed not wanting to be intimate in public and setting healthy boundaries and rules. I feel like a man.