Nexplanon and Ectopic Pregnancy

Hi guys. I’m having a bit of a rainy day and I want to turn some of my thoughts into a debate!

So this passed week I’ve been feeling super pregnant. My breasts were so sore I couldn’t stop massaging them, I was starving, and my contacts would burn when I put them in (sounds odd but that’s a HUGE symptom for me).

Anyway, I decided to take a pregnancy test. Turned out I was, in fact, pregnant.

I called my OB since I’ve been on nexplanon for a year and half, so I had no clue how far along I was so I felt it urgent to let her know. She had me in the follow day to check everything out.

Turns out my pregnancy is ectopic and I am so sad now.

I didn’t tell my husband I even got a positive because I was going to surprise him with the news on the day we move in to the new home we purchased (it’ll be done being built end of next month).

My question is, since I already haven’t told him, do you think I can just keep it to myself?

I don’t want to go making him sad too, and I keep thinking with all the stress going on in our lives maybe it’s best to just keep it to myself.

BUT, on the other hand, if I don’t tell him do you think he’d have reason to be mad at me if he were to find out?

For those of you who don’t know, an ectopic pregnancy cannot be saved and must be terminated. I hate typing the word because if it weren’t ectopic I’d be overjoyed.

Bonus: do you think women who end up in situations like this have a right to be sad? Seeing as they wanted to prevent pregnancy or else they wouldn’t be on BC?

The last question is asked being the parting words from my nurse practitioner was “don’t beat yourself up over it. You’ll take some medication and it’ll all be as it was before.”

I honestly could tell if she was trying to be comforting or condescending.