One of the worst things ever happened to me...

I don't know who to talk to but I'm tired of keeping it in.. My husband and I have been on and off since 2012, when we both were in the Army. We finally married last year, and made it work. We have been trying to get pregnant for a while now and finally got pregnant right before he deployed.. It was wonderful, but then the worst part came at 16 weeks I found out I miscarried, it was the worst feeling to call my hubby and tell him while he is over seas that I lost our baby. He was devastated. Red cross wouldn't send an emergency call because I was under 29 weeks and they said since I "can pee the baby out, and not have surgery to remove" that it wasn't a real emergency. Yet his unit let him come home, but it's been so hard to talk about it.. It's only been a few day's since I lost the baby and every night it gets harder. I can't sleep, barely eat Idk what to do, can anyone help? ***Update my husband started drinking, and got drink and blamed me for losing the baby.... :'(