Ok so I've read a lot about how you shouldn't douche as your vagina self cleans and it will disrupt the balance, but everytime I bathe or go swimming my vagina stays open, I've searched on the Web about this multiple times but I can't find anything.

When I had a bathe I stuck my finger in to see how the water gets in and I didn't even have to push it in, there's a wide enough hole to put my finger in without touching myself, and the inside is full of water and what ever bath bomb I put in my bath. Is this because I am too relaxed?

The first time I noticed this was when I went swimming with a tampon in and the water got inside and expanded the tampon

There is no weird discharge or infections ever and I am a virgin so I'm not loose? what is this? Anyone?