Okay so this is my first baby and as excited I am about the baby I am also anxious for the baby shower because my mom wants it to be extra. I don't want the games, decorations and all that I don't want to be the center of attention. we were thinking about just a cookout and hang out type thing but she wants it to be all extra. what's some ideas where we can both get what we want or I can slightly be less anxious during the whole thing because baby showers and birthday parties are not my thing. no negative comments