"Don't look at him different"

봄하루 • Human wreckage

Last week, i went over to see my babe to have a talk in person. I casually tend to ask questions over text, this time i asked, "Do you want to be in a relationship with me?" Cause in my mind, i feel like i know the answer but i like to hear it so it's not odd for me to want to just blurt it out. He gave an indifferent answer, one that just wasn't direct and i was confused, it left off at him not knowing how to answer. Upset, i called him. We're five months in and he tells me his point of view of a relationship is wanting to marry that person, this person is his soul mate. He basically told me I'm not that person, he doesn't know if I'm that person. We had sex a month into our relationship and after that, it was just established that we're together, everything just took it's course, we got to see each other once a week. My point of view was, maybe we should take it slow and build that friendship before thinking of a relationship. It was left there until he wanted to talk in person. To sum up what his end is, he told me it's lasted this long together because he didn't want to let me go. He said he doesn't know if i'm someone he wants to try with, he ultimately wants to see other people once he moves out his parent's place some time this year if not the next (we're both 21). I asked him, do you want to try to be friends to build this relationship - "I don't know.". If not, you can leave. He asked me, "this is my point of view, is this okay with you. If not, you can leave." I asked him what we lacked, he said his feelings for me aren't that strong. We both gave each other the option to split but neither of us wanted to leave. So we decided to continue to comfort and support each other and the weird feelings of the aftermath left and we eventually go back to our habits with each other. Upset, i asked him to not think of me as someone he's going to leave but let's appreciate each other more so it hurts less when the day comes - he agreed. These days, i've been feeling less than usual and I feel myself shut down each time he mentions moving out soon. I just.. I've been wanting to rant about it these days but i want to protect him so much that i don't want to mention his way of thinking or that i decided to stay because i don't want him looked at differently and i don't want to be treated against it.. i just get sad when he talks about moving out cause i know he'll have someone else over since he'll want to see other people..