I cant make him cum

Me and my boyfriend have more phone sex than actual sex we’ve only had sex like 4 or 5 times im 18 hes 17 he always cums during phone sex but never came in real life wether it be oral sex or bjs like it takes me over a half hour of a bj before i get bored and give up. I dont know what an orgasm feels like i dont know if ive had one i dont know if ive ever came. Were both still learning (protected obviously) but i just wanna know is this normal