So, I recently broke up with my boyfriend, we will call him jo.He knew im a little/kitten and said that it didn’t bother him. But whenever I’d be snuggly and relaxed and in headspace, he would yell at me and refuse to cuddle me until I wasn’t in headspace anymore. He said I wasn’t allowed to be little around him. He only let me be little around him when he was doing the dirty. But this year, I met my friend, erick, at lunch. Erick helped me get out of the relationship with jo and has been comforting me since we broke up. Erick also happens to be a daddy and figured out that I am a kitten/little. I didn’t tell him out right but he noticed. He is such a saint and has been amazing with helping me relax and not expect punishment and yelling for if I’m in headspace. I have a lot of issues still, I can’t go I to headspace with other humans around yet, I still get tense during cuddles and It sometimes still makes me flinch when people call me kitten. However I’m getting slightly better and just wanted to share this, in case anyone has any advice or just little comforts on how I can work through the mental blocks up by my ex.