To those in or who have been in toxic or abusive relationships!

It can totally get better! It was back in 2014 that my ex broke up with me and kicked me and my two children out of 'his' house. I wont go into all the details of that relationship, but he made me feel unhappy most of the time. He was manipulaive and a liar. It was subtle alot of the time but when I went to counselling recently my counsellor called his actions towards me abusive ....!

I have been with my current boyfriend a bit more than a year now. I didn't tell him about the abuse straight away. But bit by bit I shared what had happened, and he has been so amazing. Last night my ex was laying into me because I have been distancing myself from my ex recently and he doesn't like it. He tried to tell me I wasn't allowed to have distance from him because of our daughter together! (Bearing in mind I never refuse to talk about my daughter with him. And I am never rude to him in front of her or bad mouth him to her!) And my current boyfriend was there with me as I finally stood up to my ex properly. I was shaking as I dealt with it but my boyfriend was there with me which made me feel like I could take on anything!

Jokes on my ex, as he was trying to manipulate me he was only strengthening mine and my boyfriend's relationship. He is definitely the one! He was so angry seeing my ex still trying to manipulate me that he was shaking too. Normally being around someone, especially a man who is angry would make me feel afraid. But for the first time I can remember I wasn't afraid of someone being angry! I still have a way to go to properly heal from the past. But I have come a long way already. And I feel like it's only going to get better from here!

There are men out there that will respect you and care for you. Men that will lift you up and belive in your strength instead of putting you down and treating you as though you are weak. And I found one!