with our daughter, it was so easy, we had a name picked before we found out she was a girl. at 21 weeks with my son, we are fighting about names. it was supposed to be III. but we both agreed, it did not feel right. little bit of a back story. his bio wasn't there. even though he was jr. his dad beat his mom, she had him thrown in jail. after he got out, he went and started a new family, tried naming his half brother same thing. but his mom threatened to change both if he did. so they chose something else. that just didn't sit right with me. he also wasn't a part of my husbands life at all and he died when my husband was young. so, now we're looking for names. my husband wanted middle name to be his step dads middle name. back story: i hate his dad. he's a alcoholic and drug addict who takes advantage of vulnerable women. mostly native women, that are addicts. his mom admit to me, she did not love his dad, she stayed because he loved her kids. and she said she wish she had left him sooner. he was taking women to the house, having sex with them while she was in the other room. she felt like no one would love her and the kids. that made me mad. i already don't like the guy, but he took advantage of my mil. he'd throw that in her face when she would try to leave. no one would love her, and the kids. she finally left when my husband and i met. we stayed with his dad when we went up there. my daughter was 7 months, and he was drinking. we heard them having sex, and i heard him get mad, and he hit her, she asked to leave, he threw her out. we live in alaska. it was -20. so i told my husband we were leaving, and gave her a ride. he got mad at us, and said she was being over dramatic. i have a history of abuse, and seeing my mom get abused. this all triggered me. and i lost any respect i had for him that night. so when my husband brought up naming my son after him, middle name wise. i said no. but my husband was not having it. i tried to be ok with it. i did. but i keep thinking about that night, and finally told my husband no. and why. so he said no to the name i chose. the name i chose, was to honor my grandma. she helped raise me. no joke, i ended up in foster care, and i stayed with her and my grandfather. so him taking that out, because i won't name my son after an abusive sob. it's infuriating.