Me and my husband talked about the first day our son is born and decided that only him and I were going to be the ones holding him(besides doctors and staff) we want to make a special bond with him and don’t want anyone else to interrupt that. I told my mother that today, (me and my mom have an extremely close relationship and we talk daily. She is one of my best friends and has been great so far this pregnancy) and she got mad at me and told me it wasn’t fair that we were going to do that. I had planned on having her and my husband in the delivery room with me while I was giving birth and she said if we feel that way that we could just send her a picture of him when he’s born cause she doesn’t wanna be around if she can’t hold him.. does this seem absurd to say??

I feel like she is being really selfish about the whole thing.. I understand she wants to hold her first grandson and she can, just not the first day that he is born..

Are we wrong to want this?