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So I've come to think about what my parents told me when I found out I'm seeing a guy who is six years older than me (he's 24, i'm 18):
"What does a 24 year old grown man see on an 18 year old high schooler?"
Take note that I feel insulted with this question. I know we are in different stages of life but I am more myself when I'm around older and grown people.

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they do have a point, I mean, he's damn near 30 and you're just beginning to live life. it is something to take into consideration, like the mentalities are different. but if you like him, and you want to be with him then do it. you're 18, an adult. our parents only want what's best for us, and sometimes they see things that we don't.

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Myself at 18 vs 20 and then 20 vs 22 and etc etc are completely different people. So when I think of a 24 year old dating a high schooler I find it very odd. Usually (not saying always!) there's a creepy reason behind relationships like that. Like... once I've graduated college and have a "big girl" job with benefits and only two weeks of vacation a year, I just don't see why I'd want to date someone who couldn't relate to any of my everyday experiences. No matter how mature the guy may be, he just wouldn't have anything in common with me past maybe movie taste or small hobbies, and that's a very shallow relationship. I understand where you're coming from but I also understand where your parents are coming from. Good parents will have your best interests in mind and not be trying to hurt your feelings or sabotage your life. Obviously at 18 you can make decisions for yourself, but I think you should really consider how this relationship came to be and why this guy is with you, and maybe try having a conversation with your parents to get on the same page. It seems like you value their opinion and if you leave this unresolved it may damage your relationship with them.

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Well I was 19 when I met my boyfriend of three years now and he was 25 at the time. Already working and his life all figured out while I wasn't even close to that and just about to choose what I wanted to study. Everyone's different and where do you even draw the line? Is 22 and 26 really that weird because it certainly doesn't feel that way. I've been lucky enough to never get those comments, at least not to my face... That's not to say there won't be problems like him being ready for kids while you're soo not thinking about that yet. But you can make it work if he fits you really that well. And if he doesn't, well that's life I suppose. Hope this helps.

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