Arrogant husband

Currently dealing with an arrogant husband. Whenever he consumes alcohol that's what he becomes the simplest thing will set him off. Simply asked him if I should put our parrot in his cage an he brings up 2 nights ago when the cage was left open an parrot was inside apparently I'm suppose to remember to close the cage mind you I have a 10 month and a 5 yr old was just being helpful tonight I wish I hadn't even asked but it's just the heart I have ..... tonight isn't the first its many occasions of unecessary arguments because of his arrogance just venting ... no harsh responses everyone deals w there crazy s/o