So I recently discovered that my husband has been watching porn, and I was very hurt and he couldn’t understand what the big deal was. So when we first got together 10 years ago we were both horny little bunnies. Well, life and two kids have kinda drained my sex drive to nothing. I really do try to get in the mood when he wants sex, but sometimes after taking care of the kids all day and doing all the house work I just want to sleep. And that’s another problem, we don’t sleep in the same room anymore. Our 4 year old will ninja into our room and climb into bed with us. He said because of her thrashing and whatever he wouldn’t get any sleep so now he sleeps in the guest room in the basement. He works 12 hour shifts and will come home and get in the shower when I’m getting the kids to bed, then park in front of the tv. I’m hen when I’m done and want to get in the shower he gets pouty because I’m not “spending time with him” aka watching tv. Most days I’m just so worn out from taking care of everything but myself I just want to shower and sleep.

Anyway, I thought we were in a decent place even though we weren’t having as much sex as he’d like. Then I find out about the porn. I have no idea how long or how often. He says it’s partly my fault for r fusing him too much. It makes sense now why he hasn’t been asking as much and I’ve been too exhausted to notice or try to initiate.