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Now that I’m home by myself I get overwhelmed with my newborn. If I know she’s been fed & changed but won’t stop fussing/crying, I lay her in the bassinet & go to another room for about 10-15 mins. I sometimes feel guilty like I’m neglecting her but I have to do this so I won’t go insane.

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I have gotten so much use out of the boba wrap! I try everything else first- make sure she is fed, clean diaper, burped, and doesn't have a tummy ache, then if she is still fussy I'll put her in the wrap. calms her down right away and I'm able to get stuff done around the house.

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Try babywearing, hun. It's saved me the first few months. It's a hard transition for baby to go from a place where its the perfect temperature, every need is met and they can always hear mama to being out in the big, bright, cold world. Ask for help if you need it. It's okay to walk away for a minute to compose yourself if you need to, but you shouldn't be leaving baby for 10-15 minutes to cry multiple times a day. They're incapable of self soothing. If a newborn is crying, it's because they need something, even if it's just the comfort of mama's arms.

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Sometimes they’re fussing because they need to be comforted, are tired, too hot, etc. 
transitioning to the outside world is tough for them, just remember they need you mama.

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Some babies are just really fussy. If you need to lay her down and leave the room for a few minutes, that’s ok. You’re doing your best!

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When my newborn cried for seemingly no reason I would do skin to skin with her. She calmed down pretty quickly. You could also try putting a blanket in the dryer for a bit and holding her in it to get her calmed down, it almost has the same effect as a bath. Pat her butt, my daughter always loves that. Maybe youtube some baby calming tricks. It can be tough at first when getting to know your baby. Step away if you absolutely have to, but baby needs you at this age, they need the comfort. Background noise can also help, babies are used to the constant sound your body made while they were inside, so it can be comforting to some babies. Good luck!

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My brother living that babywearing life :)
I would baby wear, it will probably give her the closeness she wants.

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That is exactly how I felt when my son was born, particularly after my husband went back to work. I felt like I had no idea what I was doing when he would fuss and feeding/changing/burping wasn’t doing the trick. One of the things that helped me was reaching out to family and friends for help, so I encourage you to reach out to people in your life that might be able to help you, even if it’s just to hold the baby while you get a little bit of time to yourself. I’ve just had my second baby and the fussiness that isn’t helped by the “usual” stuff usually means she’s tired and is having a hard time getting to sleep. White noise has proved to be calming for her and helps her with sleep. Today, I wore her in a carrier and vacuumed and she was asleep in minutes. I think putting your baby down in a safe place and taking a moment to breathe is fine, and not neglectful. It’ll get easier, and you’re doing fine, even when it feels like you’re not, you’re doing great.

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Try to do some skin to skin. She probably just needs you yo comfort her.

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