So me and my man are having this issue he doesnt think its a big deal but its a huge deal to me and i have literally cried multiple times about it. I admit I have a very high sexual appetite I want it all day everyday, my man not so much. he was single for 4 years and admits he just has no need or want for sex and that he doesnt mind having sex if i need it but I don't want him to just get me off then be done. What made me super upset is that he says he doesnt want or need sex but he masturbates most mornings after he gets off work when I'm sleeping n he's in the shower. I get it most guys do it because it's quick and doesn't take a lot of energy especially at 430am but what really irritates me is that when we do have sex he most of the time never cums for me. I try jacking him off and he says it's just not the way he does it, I give him head and he said it feels good but just can't get off to it. I just dont understand why he is so sexually complicated. I've never had any complaints if anything guys tell me I made them cum too quick. So I googled it and I think he has retarded ejaculation which means he more so prefers to jack off than have sex with me even though I'm more than willing at 430am. now I can't help but get butt hurt every morning I hear that shower turn on because I know what he's probably doing in there and sometimes he walks out kinda semi hard which means he was just hard and is getting soft after jacking off. I told him since he is having a issue cumming for me Maybe he should try to not masturbate and hold off until we have sex that way he can cum for me we tried and he said he didn't jack off for a week and STILL couldn't cum for me. he reassured me that it's nothing to do with me and that he loves me and is very highly attracted to me but it's starting to get to the point where I don't even want to have sex because I know he probably already got himself off and I know that I'm going to just get frusterated if he doesn't cum for me and feel let down. whats scary is even though I love him and want to be with him for the rest of my life our sex life sucks and i have thought about contacting a old fuck buddy that I've had the best sex with just to get satisfied but part of me really doesnt want to cheat or hurt him because i love him so much but if he can't satisfy my needs and I can't satisfy his and he is just going to continue to jack off instead of want me why try to have sex at all anymore. HELP! I've asked if he would go to sex therapy and said nothing is wrong with him and that I just need to get over it but I can't what do I do?