Did he rape me

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I was laying down with my boyfriend. Been together for 2 years. I told him I didn’t want to have sex cause he was being all touchy he was like come on I was like no I’m tired and he’s like fine let me jack off to your butt. I’m like ok so I take my pants off and let him do that. Then I feel his penis get near me and I said please stop, he did. Some time passed he was jacking off and then I felt his penis go in my butt hole, then in my vagina, and back to my butthole. I was screaming stop stop at the top of my lungs. This lasted like 3 seconds. I know he was aware that I was screaming in fear he stopped but he came. I’m pretty sure that’s the only reason he stopped.. because once I felt it I started screaming hysterically . And I started crying after he’s like what I didn’t do anything I’m sorry and he started sobbing really hard. And he said I don’t deserve to live I’m sorry tried to choke himself(he’s suicidal) I stopped him and I told him itsok stop it’s ok a nd we both were crying. I don’t know.. what to do.. I never though this would happ n to me.. I love him more than anything... I don’t know what is going through my head..

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He blatantly disregarded your boundaries and sexually abused you. You told him no, you were screaming at him to stop and yet he continued to force you into something sexual. Honestly? I don't give a shit if he's suicidal, there is NO excuse for ignoring someone else’s pleas to stop for your own sexual satisfaction. If I was you, I would leave. I understand that you love him, but that is unacceptable and if it happens once it will happen again. I'm in a relationship, my boyfriend gets horny and wants to have sex but the moment I tell him no, he backs off completely and doesn't need a reason why. When we’re in the middle of sex and I start to no longer feel up for it, he picks up on those cues and I either tell him to stop or he asks me if I still want it. Again, he backs off completely at once. That is how it should be between both people in a relationship. Sex is consensual, otherwise it's abuse or rape. Please, please leave him.

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Bullshit he’s guilt tripping you by making you feel bad about him being “suicidal”
I can actually guarantee you that he’s just making you feel bad for him and then that completely distracts you from the fact that YES HE DID RAPE YOU

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this is definitely rape. if a man can not accept your decision, or tries to guilt trip you, then he’s not a man who’s worth your time.

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That’s definitely rape! I advise you to go see a therapist & to break up with him. He also needs to see a specialist as well, because from what I’m hearing your in a unstable & unsafe relationship?!

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It sounds like he has some serious mental issues and I would fucking RUN.

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Hi it sounds like he might be mentally abusive/manipulative

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Not only did he sexually assault you but you are in a very very abusive relationship. It isn't normal nor okay for a guy to threaten to kill himself because you won't have sex with him. I don't care if he has depression or is suicidal - he shouldn't be threatening to kill himself right after he sexually assaults you. Please get out of the relationship before it gets any worse and stay safe honey 💕

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It sounds like he needs some serious help in his life. Yes, he raped you if you said no and he did it anyways.

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you made it clear that you didn’t want to have sex multiple times but he ignored that and obviously did what he did. When you said he started to cry, mmmmmk i get that he is suicidal but it sounded to me as if he’s almost trying to make you feel bad for him so he could hide what he desired, which should totally not be the case in this situation after he blatantly ignored you.